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Let’s go back to your childhood….

Altogether now....."WHEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!"

Altogether now....."WHEEEEEEE!!!!!!"

The children’s play area across the road from us offers a rich tapestry of life. I posted a while ago an article about an old Chinese guy, sat on a rocking horse, contemplating life. The other day, this snapshot presented itself, and it brought to mind a quote on The Pomegranate Blog, where it was postulated that:

“The first half of our lives is ruined by our parents, the second half by our children.”

It’s a quote from a 19th century lawyer, Clarence Darrow, and it has some basis in truth. but looking at these two on the swings yesterday, I think it’s fair to say that, with one’s own children, it might just be possible to relive your childhood on your own terms.

Kev Moore


November 30, 2008 - Posted by | family, humor, life, Parents and Children, personal, random, writing | , , ,


  1. Sweet analogy Kev! I like it.

    Comment by thepomegranateblog | November 30, 2008

  2. What do you mean, “Let’s go back to our childhood?” I live there. I do not think about getting older. I do not live like my age. In fact I live like I am a child with wonder and curiosity in my mind. I do not let bad experiences intersect the present moment in a bad way. I bring the powerful emotions of those bad experiences into the present and use them to create. Creation needs energy and needless regrets, doubts, anger, frustration et al do not help me in the present. Rather, if I let them, they impede my personal growth. My identity is not my memories, although science claims that every waking and sleeping second is recorded somewhere in our minds; in an organ that will degenerate at death into ashes and dust. My identity is my Spirit within me. It is ageless and timeless. Age and time are constructs of man and not of the Spirit. The Spirit is the source of creation. Inspiration is the catalyst for creation. But the Spirit creates whatever it is present in the mind. So we live our lives in psychological and psychic conditioning that distracts man from himself. And keeping childhood memories is a form of psychological conditioning. Holding on to these memories is therefore not of any value. What is valuable is the learning from the experiences and creating a better self in the present. Wether good or bad there is something to bring into the present. That is what creativity is: something wanting to be born into the world right now.

    Comment by Michael | November 30, 2008

  3. Great photo Kevin! And happy to see that you find time to look through the window… not like me who is working like a slave! 🙂
    But please, next time clean the window before you take a photo…

    Comment by Miki | November 30, 2008

  4. I see a new series emerging from your window depicting life’s lessons from the perspective of this swingset! I think you should run with this…

    Kids are such a vehicle for all sorts of unexpected experiences – they certainly force you to confront all sorts of things within yourself. Not sure that qualifies as “ruining” but there are some days…

    Comment by bobcornelis | November 30, 2008

  5. Gosh. I so often see things differently. And seeing this picture is a case in point. Please look again. Look at the posture of the adult. He is comfortable. Look at the infant. He looks comfortable too, but. But notice that the baby is tilted some forward, unnaturally forward, braced. But the key word here re the little one is ‘unnatural’ despite or maybe because of all the haltering.

    Did that little one learn to use her body to create some of the motion?

    Ah, and the adult creatively using the view… yes, touching one’s creativity is where its at… but even here, isn’t creativity a process rather than a product?

    Tee hee…

    I even have some thoughts on that as well. Baby might have fun, might be propped up well enough to enjoy the motion and the high and lows, even thrill to them.

    But, um, its so different to experience something when one is old enough to do the thing on one’s own, gaining this thrill by her own efforts.

    Isn’t this an age for a sand box instead? For fun and for self expression ….

    Unless we want passive people…

    Comment by freeformpublishing | November 30, 2008

  6. Phyllis, we risk drowning in dogma here. In the greater scheme of things, the Father by the child’s side is a plus, whichever way you look at it. Okay, so the child can’t clamber into the swing unaided – does that make the child’s role in the enjoyment of swinging passive? I think the child was tilting forward to get some more “oomph” to the motion! but then I’m a “glass is half full” kind of guy….

    Bob – oh yeah, don’t we know it, there are some days alright!

    Comment by kevmoore | November 30, 2008

  7. Very uplifting quote from that seed spitter.

    Comment by wrjones | December 1, 2008

  8. Bill! I already told u I don’t spit the seeds… LOL What would be the point of that? It’s all seeds 600 something of them 😉 hehehehe

    Comment by thepomegranateblog | December 2, 2008

  9. Bill is what we like to call around here “provocative” …or perhaps he just has a fruit phobia….

    Comment by kevmoore | December 2, 2008

  10. Sweet capturing. I like the reflection of the red mug…with a kitten drawn on the inside, upper rim?

    Comment by sittingpugs | December 3, 2008

  11. That’s very spooky SP – I just asked Miki today if she had spotted the mug in the reflection. The mug has a name – “cochonette” and was featured in this early Cafe Crem post.

    Comment by kevmoore | December 3, 2008

  12. Excellent back story to “cochonette.”

    Comment by sittingpugs | December 4, 2008

  13. Thank you, Pugs! I hadn’t seen myself the reflection of the cup in the window… your eyes are tremendous!
    By the way, nice of you to visit us regularly here in Cafe Crem! I wonder which style of coffee cup You use… or don’t you drink coffee?

    Comment by Miki | December 4, 2008

  14. I’m addicted to non-carbonated caffeinated beverages. I have a few simple mugs. I’ll take a picture of them in the near future and post it on my blog.

    Comment by sittingpugs | December 4, 2008

  15. SP, I think we should classify this as a registered illness, and we can all perhaps get some therapy groups going, and perhaps government funding.
    Along the lines of: “My name’s Kev and I’ve got ANCCB Disorder…” At the very least there might be free coffee at the meetings.

    Comment by kevmoore | December 4, 2008

  16. Love this picture and the sentiment attached. You should check out Philip Larkin’s poem This Be the Verse.

    Comment by slyscribe | December 4, 2008

  17. Thats a good shout, Slyscribe, here it is, from Larkin’s last published collection, “High windows”

    This Be The Verse

    They f*ck you up, your mum and dad.
    They may not mean to, but they do.
    They fill you with the faults they had
    And add some extra, just for you.

    But they were f*cked up in their turn
    By fools in old-style hats and coats,
    Who half the time were soppy-stern
    And half at one another’s throats.

    Man hands on misery to man.
    It deepens like a coastal shelf.
    Get out as early as you can,
    And don’t have any kids yourself.

    Philip Larkin 1922-85

    Comment by kevmoore | December 4, 2008

  18. I’ve got ANCCB Disorder.

    That’s quite fetching. And to have ANCCB, as opposed to ACCB (addicted to carbonated caffeinated beverages) or the more general ACB (addicted to caffeinated beverages), would instantly let the other addicts know that you get your hit from tea, coffee, and espresso….rather than soda and energy drinks.

    Comment by sittingpugs | December 4, 2008

  19. […] 20, 2008 by sittingpugs In response to this thread over at Cafe Crem, I see your Cochonette, and I raise you a set of not-as-exciting coffee […]

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