Café Crem

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Images from the past – danu

I hope nobody will think, after my pretty dark previous post, that I don’t love my children. I should balance the darkness with a few images from the past (the past I so stupidly long for)…

I also find in a book of Aline Trempleton (a Scotish writer) a phrase which kind of made me meditate a bit:

… “We all live with comforting illusions. We need to allow ourselves to accept them because the people who strip life to its bleakest core and focus only on that become mentally sick. And of course, most of the time the comfort isn’t illusory: you’ve had years of security and hapiness and a few weeks of wretchedness and misery. This will pas.” …

I believe I almost did that: “striped life to its bleakest core” so, this was my family, way back:

Luci Doru


Ioana Jamie

Ochii Luci

January 3, 2008 Posted by | Art | 9 Comments

The Family Squeeze

That’s my mother there in the midst of all my menfolk. Yuh think she’s enjoying it? Yup! A lot of friends my age talk about being squeezed between two generations – caring for the young generation and the elder generation at the same time. That’s a different kind of squeeze from the picture, and it’s been keeping me busy, I’d have to say. (I guess that could be my excuse for not showing up on Cafe Crem as regularly as I’d like)
I had my boys when I was 40 and 42 so sometimes I operate a bit more like a grandmother. Other times I think they’re keeping my perspective young, which I really appreciate as does my 88 year old mother(obviously). When she asked if they had learned ballroom dancing and I said no, she wisely commented that “well, maybe nowadays that’s a skill they won’t need in life?” I would guess, probably not.

January 3, 2008 Posted by | family, fun, humor, life, love, men, Parents and Children | 6 Comments

TED | TEDBlog: 5 dangerous things you should let your kids do: Gever Tulley on

What do you think? {Michael}

Gever Tulley, founder of the Tinkering School, talks about our drive to overprotect our children — and spells out 5 dangerous things you should let your kids do. Allowing kids the freedom to explore, he says, will make them stronger and smarter and actually safer. This talk comes from TED University 2007, a pre-conference program where TEDsters share ideas. (Recorded March 2007 in Monterey, California. Duration: 9:20.)

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January 3, 2008 Posted by | Parents and Children, video | , | 4 Comments

Sometimes You Just Get Lucky

By W.R. Jones

    Here is a true parenting story, or maybe just another of my nearly classic “foot in mouth” blunders.

    I was at a Friday night high school basketball game.  My daughter was 14 at the time.  I was sitting next to this couple and we got to chatting before the game began.   I did not know them and during the conversation found that they had a 16 year old daughter.  They pointed her out as she walked across the floor, a beautiful young woman.  The talk got around to how we might prepare our daughters for  the onslaught of sexual advances soon to come their way.

    I don’t remember their comments, something about about a church.  I said, “Well, I don’t care if my daughter screws every boy in town as long as she is happy.”  You’ve probably heard the term “jaw dropping”, this man and wife really did have their jaws drop, wide open.  I’ve never seen anything like it.  They turned away and never said another word to me or each other for the entire game.

    I found out later that they were super religious.  Now the interesting part of this story of exceptional parenting skills is that their daughter and mine became very close friends and still are some 12 years later.   I feel very fortunate as their daughter mentored mine and guided her through those high school years with friendship and sound advice.

    Parenting skills, or just luck?  

January 3, 2008 Posted by | Art | 4 Comments

Life Cycles


This is my godson. He is lying on  the tummy  of my sister, his gradma. I was lucky to get this face on file for he is always on the move.  I  can feel his happiness whenever I  am around him, for he is surely a happy guy, now 4 years old.  

I have no children of my own, but my nephews, nieces and grandnieces and nephews are like children to me. It’s a real  pleasure to see them growing, saying funny, smart things that make me  stop and think. I am amazed by how fast time passes by. It was like  yesterday that I  had his  his father oin my arms,  few days  old.   I saw  them small and then, in a flash, they are adults  and having children of their own, like this  ball of happiness. Life cycles, how beautiful they are! 

January 3, 2008 Posted by | family, life, love, Parents and Children | , , , , , | 7 Comments

Dady and I (back in time)

Dady and I

This is my dady with me helping me to walk some 19  years ago. I love him, adore him, admire him. He is the best man I’ve ever known. He is so intelligent and I try my best to be like him, to make him proud of me though sometimes I feel I don’t try enough. Seeing him suffer is the worst thing for me, sometimes he let me help him, some other times he doesn’t. He has been, is and will always be a great dad and a fantastic friend for me!

Since I was a child most of the times he goes out, or when he has just washed his hair, I ask him to let me brush his hair… He says he likes it but I know that even if he didn’t like he would let me do it the same ’cause I like it.

I love you dady!!

Feel free to ask me whatever crosses your mind.


January 3, 2008 Posted by | family, life, love, Parents and Children, personal, photo, photography | , , , | 10 Comments